As part of the “eyes forward” project, today we will attempt to unpack the family. The unconditional, and the moral.
Growing up as an only child, my family was a small one. Born to working class parents I had a great connection to my grandparents, my mum and my dad. I truly is something I am eternally grateful for.
For many others though, the family model is a mixture of violence, suffering, and emotional heartache beyond what most could possibly comprehend. This struggle doesn’t always come at the start, life may throw some challenges at the most mature of couples, the diverse, and the ones that like most of us, would say, “that will never happen to us.”
Life has taught me a few things that in my mind relate to all family’s no matter what their shape, size, or smell!
Everything passes, no matter how hard it is.
Be there for each other, without that, the core of the family is without life.
Talk with those you trust and love.
The phrase, “eyes forward” relates to a motorsport term that I hear regularly in my job of managing the V8 Supercars communications system. It resonated with me last year because at times we simply need to focus on whats in front. To lose the distraction of what has been for the benefit of what you can make ‘be’.
Comparing this to family means that at times you will need to focus on yourself. To re-build and re-learn who you are, or at least what you are right now. There is no shame in failing, nor making mistakes, we all do it! The shame comes when we are not ready to listen to our hearts in order to learn. The basic steps of reconciliation begin within, they finish with energy focused with ‘eyes forward’.
I am not perfect, far from it, nor are my friends or family. What they most definitely are though is my soul, and my conscience.